Becoming the soul of company might seem like an impossible mission at first. We might think that we need some natural charisma or talent to be liked by the people around us. But actually, being likable is something that we can easily train for by putting some effort, imagination, and improvisation into the process.
Mobonews prepared a list of foolproof, yet effective tips that can help you to win people over, even if you are an introvert to the core. Make sure you save them!
Put effort into establishing a warm and positive connection to let people form a special impression of you. The win-win option here is always going to be a sincere smile. However, just one emotion is not enough. A personalized touch like a handshake, a quick tap on the shoulder, or even a short hug, plays a significant role.
The most important thing here is to try to feel the energy of the other person and follow their body language with your own gestures.
2. Engage them in talking about themselves.
Most people love talking about themselves, so you can make use of this. Ask them about their hobbies, the places they’ve been or might want to visit, plans for the weekend, and much more. Don’t get too private, as this can make a person feel uncomfortable and they might even try to push you away.
Also, it’s good to avoid closed questions where the answer is just a simple “yes” or “no.” Instead, make use of the question, “Why?” or “How?” — it gives the other person an awesome opportunity to talk more about a chosen topic.
3. Put an emphasis on the similar traits you both share.
We tend to be attracted to people who are somewhat similar to us, and this has a name: the “similarity-attraction effect.” Try to find something that might be similar in you and the person you’re talking to. It can be your taste in music, a certain food you both like to eat, or a sport you both enjoy watching. After you’ve found it out, you need to make use of it by discussing it with this person or inviting them to visit the place where you can both enjoy this activity. These simple things might not seem like they are very important, but they do a great job of making people feel personally connected to you, and help them enjoy being around you.
4. Compliment the things that people struggle with the most.
Some compliments can awaken a completely different range of feelings in us. Just complimenting someone’s smile or eye color is not going to make much difference for a person, they will probably see it as a very neutral thing. Naturally, they didn’t earn these things, they are just a part of who they are. The key here is to notice the thing that a person struggled with the most and praise them for it.
For example, let’s say that you know that this person worked day and night on a project, and it turned out to be a huge success. Admiring their hard work and effort will awaken a deep feeling of satisfaction, making them genuinely happy and even proud of themselves.
5. Don’t forget to always be mindful of your body language.
Even if we don’t notice it, crossed arms and legs tell others that we can’t be trusted and that we’re hiding something. But no matter how hard it might be for you, try to open your stance. The best thing you can do is to keep your spine and legs straight and your hands open with your palms turned toward other people. Putting a relaxed and inviting look on your face will make other people feel more comfortable being around you, and naturally, like you more.
6. Share the truth about your flaws.
Some people can get extremely irritated when others try to act like they are perfect. Sharing your weaknesses and failures can make you appear genuine and allow the people around you to feel closer and more engaged with you. Though, make sure you don’t overdo it and talk about all your failures and bad moments, otherwise the effect will be just the opposite.
7. Be the first one who makes a joke.
Instead of waiting for someone to loosen up the tension in the room, be the one who takes action — make a funny, yet harmless, comment about the situation you are in, things you are working on, etc. If you’ve known the person long enough, you can sometimes tease them in a friendly way, but remember that you should never attack their identity or laugh at something that they can’t change about themselves. Whoever you are teasing needs to be laughing along with you. And don’t forget to laugh at yourself from time to time as well.
8. Laugh at someone else’s jokes too.
Support others’ attempts at making the atmosphere more friendly. By laughing along, you will support the other person and help them see that you are listening to them.
Even if someone makes a bad joke, you can turn it into a funny one by having a good laugh. This way, you will make other people go along with it and make everyone feel good. Always remember: laugh with them, not at them!
9. To be interesting, be interested.
Most of the time, people like to talk rather than listen, and they only appreciate those who pay attention to them. One of the ways to appear as a careful and attentive listener is by repeating the phrases that the person you’re talking to just said.
For example, use question tags like, “I know, right?!”. In addition, don’t forget to play with encouraging words like, “Exactly!” or “That’s right!” and so on. This technique is also called an “emotionally reflective response.”
10. Be a magnet for people around you and engage them.
Don’t blend in with the atmosphere and the people that are present in the room. Instead, try to be an enthusiastic person. Attract others into having short, but meaningful chats or even longer conversations.
Try to be one level higher and don’t be scared of appearing silly. Your positive energy won’t go unnoticed — people will eagerly join in and tag along.
11. Make friends with other people’s friends.
Having people in common, like mutual friends who have “similarities,” really matters for us. Establishing a friendship with the acquaintances of others can play a big role in building trust with all of them. Also, it makes people feel closer to each other when they have a couple of similar friends. And it’s a good way to expand the group of people you are in right now.
12. Surprise people when they don’t expect it.
When people receive something pleasant from others that they didn’t ask for, it gives them an extraordinarily good feeling. Don’t be afraid of surprising others with something they might like, without asking their permission to do so. For example, if you are at work and want to go grab yourself a sandwich, you could also grab one more for your colleague. This surprising action will stick in their mind for a long time, and you will be seen as a friendly and nice person.
Which tactics do you use to make people like you? Let’s share our secrets in the comment section!
We may have been denied justice, but we will never keep quiet – Nigerians mark three months anniversary of #LekkiMassacre
Today, 20th of January, 2021 is a sad day for many Nigerians as it marks 3 months since peaceful protesters demanding an end to police brutality were shot at, leaving many wounded and over a dozen killed.
The incident has left a sour taste in the mouths of victims, families and Nigerians who watched the horrid incident that took place on a Tuesday night at the Lekki toll gate, Lagos state.
According to videos shared on that night, military men were seen opening fire on the youths protesting under the #EndSARS banner and causing serious casualties. A case of which Nigerian Army authorities have denied on several occasions, stating that soldiers fired only blank bullets in the air.
Today marks exactly 3 months month since the shooting event of October 20, 2020 and Nigerians have taken to social in remembrance of those who lost their lives.
A look at BBNaija Erica’s comparison of Nigerian and Ghanaian Jollof (video)
• After tasting Ghanaian Jollof presented to her by supporters, Erica insists Nigerian Jollof is better.
• The 2020 BBNaija star earlier today traveled to Ghana from Dubai for a meet and greet with fans.
Former Big Brother Naija season 5 Lockdown reality television star cum actress, Erica Nlewedim has concluded on which among Nigerian and Ghanaian Jollof tastes better and in other word, sweeter.
You could recall that Erica made it to Ghana earlier today, Wednesday, January 20 after her successful trip to Dubai courtesy of Nigerian-based travel company, Travelbeta.
The reality star utilized the opportunity to meet with her Ghanaian supporters who graced the airport in the early hours of morning to welcome their Star Girl and Queen of Elites.
However, in a video posted via her Instagram story, Erica was spotted with some of her fans who hosted her in a lounge with lots of gifts presented to her.
Also, the Star Girl was served the popular African recipe, Jollof rice which she tasted and confirmed which among Nigerian and Ghanaian Jollof is better and probably tastes sweeter.
In her words, “It actually looks very pretty, but Nigerian Jollof is better. Most people already know. You already know Nigerian Jollof is better.
“Let me tell you. No matter how nice it tastes, I will still say it, Nigerian Jollof is better. Well, it’s actually nice, but Nigerian Jollof is better.
Watch video below.
BBNaija’s Lucy reacts after being accused of online begging (video)
• Rumours have made the rounds stating that all the gifts Lucy received from people were as a result of her begging for them.
• The Ex-Lockdown star stated that as long as she knows the God she serves, He will always provide for her and not through begging.
Big Brother Naija season 5 Lockdown reality television star and ex-housemate Lucy Edet Essien has taken out time to retort an accusation by people who claim she begs for gifts.
In a video the reality star posted via her Instagram story on Wednesday, January 20, she mentioned that a lot of people have been saying she begged for all the gifts she received since after BBNaija Lockdown show.
And this could be linked to a recent package the BBNaija star received from someone whom her colleague Kiddwaya gave her phone number. She has also received a cash from her female co-reality star Nengi who according to Lucy, gave her money totalling thousands of naira.
However, Lucy believes the secret to her gifts has been because she’s doing the right thing which is GIVING, hence, the bible verse, ‘give and you shall receive.’
The Cross Rivers State-native added that people should understand that whenever you know the God you serve, you don’t have to beg, because He will always provide for you.
“If you’re getting pissed that I’m getting gifts and all that, have you ever sat down to ask yourself ok, may be she’s actually doing something right, may be she’s actually giving to people.
“I don’t know how you should be expecting that I would come and announce, oh! I gave to this one, I gave to that. Not all of us have that mindset.
“God said that what you’re doing, your left hand must not know. If you give with the right, your left hand should not know. That’s how you get your own reward.
“I don’t see why I have to come and explain to anybody or people telling me, oh! me I’m going around begging.
“All I just have to say is that if you know the God you serve, basically, you don’t have to beg, God would always provide.”
Watch video below.
Opinion: “The Shippers Need To Rest” – Laycon Stylishly Shades Erica Fans in a recent freeystyle rap (Details)
The drama after big brother naija lockdown house seems not want to end soon, as exhousemates keep shading one another in any slightly opportunity given to them on social media.
This time, Laycon has stylishly shades Erica through his Jimmyjump off at Jimmyjat studio. The bbnaija winner and musician said shippers should need to rest, that he got a lot to brag of, but he just decided to stay humble.
However, no one need to tell before you know that he was referring to Erica fans and Erica, because Erica fans are always found of shipping Erica with Kidwaya and Laycon.
Recalled that Erica once said that Laycon doesn’t worth her and she also said that, she don’t want people to google her name and see Laycon with her name. That is why the young musician said that, he got a lot to brag about but he is humble.
In Laycon bars through Jymmyjat jumpoff, he said;
“So the shippers need to rest
There is a lot to brag about but I stay humble
Just let the music speak
And also let the number speak
Am not even at the top but they wanna cry
They keep saying my music won’t pop because of the show
Remember, the Music made me go into the show
I went on the show
Caught cruise on the show
Made money on the show
Made money off the show
Since I won the show
Let’s end the fucking show!”
Reactions As Ozo Pecked And Hugged Nengi In New Video (Watch)
Bbnaija stars, Ozo and Nengi are 2 people that fans want together, right from the days of the Big Brother Naija show, fans always wanted them to date.
Yesterday a video was released online, and it has sparked reactions from the fans of Ozo and Nengi already.
The video showed the moment Ozo gave Nengi a peck on her cheeks, and also hugged her, while she blushed.
This made their fans really happy about it, as it seems like Nengi an Ozo would be in a new show soon.
“There are some guys who can never cheat on their girlfriend, me and 6 others”- Prince says
Big brother naija reality star, Prince Nelson Enwerem, says he is very faithful to his girlfriend.
The reality TV star shared a post by a twitter influencer, telling his followers that there are some men in this world that can never cheat on their girlfriends, unfortunately its only him and six others.
The influencer wrote:
“I know some people will not believe this but there are some guys in this world who can never cheat on their girlfriends”
He retweeted the post with a caption:
Prince Nelson Enwerem is yet to publicly reveal his girlfriend, however, himself and colleague, Dorathy Bachor are very close.
“See how you use a 3month old car” Fans react as Dorathy shares picture of the state of her car. (Details)
Bbnaija star, Dorathy took to her social media page to share a Short clip of the state of her Benz Car which attracted whole lots of reactions from fans on social media.
Dorathy was given the Benz car by her fans on the 4th of November. So the car is just 2 month old and some weeks.
Seeing the state of the car it shows everything some fans were saying some weeks back is true.
Some fans that reacted to this are of the opinion how can somebody use car like this within that short period of time.
Is not everyone that deserves expensive gifts- A fan wrote
Another set of fans that reacted to this are of the opinion she is so careless and also not using the car well or that the car is not good truly.