How to Help a Suicidal Friend
Suicide is no place for on-the-job training.
So here is what you shouldn’t do, Don’t tell them to cheer up,
don’t tell them to snap out of it, don’t tell them it’s not as bad as they think it is.
Anything like that can just reinforces their feelings of isolation in the world.
If they could cheer up by wanting to, don’t you think they’d have done that by now.
So Having a friend who you believe to be considering suicide is not to be taken lightly.
Being suicidal is a temporary state that appears as an answer to severe depression,
and the act of taking one’s own life is preventable when the correct measures are taken.
So here are things you must do.
1.Observe Their Suicidal Thoughts.
Observe if they are:
- Frequent dwelling on a thought obsessively.
- Believing that there is no hope, and no way to end the pain other than taking their life.
- Viewing life as meaningless, or out of control.
- Feeling as though one’s brain is in a fog that makes concentration difficult.
- Feeling empty(void).
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2.Recognize Their Suicidal Emotions Real Quick.
Talk to them, don’t let them wallow. Most emotional changes accompany suicidal thought,
here are the warning signs.
- Feelings of alone even in the presence a million people.
- Feelings of worthlessness, shame, guilt, self-hatred, and the sense that no one cares.
- Extreme mood swings.
- Becoming sad, withdrawn, tired, apathetic, anxious, irritable, or prone to angry outbursts.
- NOTE: never leave them of your sight.
3.Observe How They Talk.
Someone who is thinking of committing suicide often say things like:
- “Life isn’t worth living.”
- “You (or another friend or family member) would be better off without me.”
- “Don’t worry, I won’t be around to deal with that.”
- “You’ll be sorry when I’m gone.”
- “I won’t be in your way much longer.”
- “I just can’t deal with everything — what’s the point?”
- “I won’t be a burden much longer.”
- “There’s nothing I can do to change anything.”
- “I’d be better off dead.”
- “I feel like there is no way out.”
- “I never should have been born”
- I’M TIRED OF THIS LIFE.
4.Recognize The Signs of Suicide Plannings.
Let the person know that what they are feeling is something valid,
real and important so having a plan already in place can mean that a successful attempt could happen soon.
Watch for all of the following actions:
- Tying up loose ends (i.e. saying goodbye to loved ones, giving away valuable belongings, arranging finances)
- Making reckless or passive decisions about important things
- Gathering the means to commit suicide, like pill bottles, medications, and all other harmful equipments.
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5.Speak Straight Forward And Openly.
Make sure they understand that you are taking their problem seriously.
That you are their supportive friend who wants to help.
Be as specific as possible to avoid sounding accusatory.
For example, instead of saying something like
“You always talk about how impossible everything is”,
try detailed observations like
“I have noticed in the past few months that things you used to enjoy,
like spending time with your kids, does not seem to improve your mood much.”
- Openly embrace the topic as another way to show how much you care.
- If you are direct about your concern, you will give off a sense of a justified sense of urgency.
- It is a common myth that bringing up suicide will put the idea into a person’s mind. In fact, speaking openly about suicide can help your friend realize that there are other options available.
- Stay on topic as best you can. Your friend might try to dismiss your concern by looking at you with confusion or making you feel silly for bringing it up. But, don’t be afraid to be persistent in your concern–especially in light of recognizing warning signs.
- Don’t be a silly, understand that you can’t fully understand.
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If your friend is at high, immediate risk for suicide,
do not leave them alone until professional help arrives.
Make sure that you or someone else stays with them at all times.
Having regular sessions with a therapist about suicidal thoughts, feelings,
and what triggers them can help prevent suicide attempts in depressed individuals.
And, for those who have already attempted suicide,
talk therapy can reduce risks of subsequent attempts by up to 50%.
8.Make sure you’re coping, too.
Playing a helping role in such a serious matter can be exhausting, stressful,
and also frustrating.
Make an effort to ensure that your own physical and emotional needs are being met.
Talking about your feelings to people you trust will help you process the situation
and understand your experience so you don’t stress things further.
9.Inform others on a need-to-know basis.
Enlist the help of other important people in your friend’s life as well.
If others are aware of the problem they will be able to be sensitive and stay on the lookout for warning signs.
Make sure you only inform others of your friend’s risk for suicide if you think they are capable of helping out.
10 lastly, Call a suicide hotline.
A suicidal person needs immediate assistance from qualified mental health professionals.
you or other untrained individuals to act as the sole counselors to your friend as needs be.
I hope this article has strongly improve your thoughts on how to deal with issues like this.
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We may have been denied justice, but we will never keep quiet – Nigerians mark three months anniversary of #LekkiMassacre
Today, 20th of January, 2021 is a sad day for many Nigerians as it marks 3 months since peaceful protesters demanding an end to police brutality were shot at, leaving many wounded and over a dozen killed.
The incident has left a sour taste in the mouths of victims, families and Nigerians who watched the horrid incident that took place on a Tuesday night at the Lekki toll gate, Lagos state.
According to videos shared on that night, military men were seen opening fire on the youths protesting under the #EndSARS banner and causing serious casualties. A case of which Nigerian Army authorities have denied on several occasions, stating that soldiers fired only blank bullets in the air.
Today marks exactly 3 months month since the shooting event of October 20, 2020 and Nigerians have taken to social in remembrance of those who lost their lives.
A look at BBNaija Erica’s comparison of Nigerian and Ghanaian Jollof (video)
• After tasting Ghanaian Jollof presented to her by supporters, Erica insists Nigerian Jollof is better.
• The 2020 BBNaija star earlier today traveled to Ghana from Dubai for a meet and greet with fans.
Former Big Brother Naija season 5 Lockdown reality television star cum actress, Erica Nlewedim has concluded on which among Nigerian and Ghanaian Jollof tastes better and in other word, sweeter.
You could recall that Erica made it to Ghana earlier today, Wednesday, January 20 after her successful trip to Dubai courtesy of Nigerian-based travel company, Travelbeta.
The reality star utilized the opportunity to meet with her Ghanaian supporters who graced the airport in the early hours of morning to welcome their Star Girl and Queen of Elites.
However, in a video posted via her Instagram story, Erica was spotted with some of her fans who hosted her in a lounge with lots of gifts presented to her.
Also, the Star Girl was served the popular African recipe, Jollof rice which she tasted and confirmed which among Nigerian and Ghanaian Jollof is better and probably tastes sweeter.
In her words, “It actually looks very pretty, but Nigerian Jollof is better. Most people already know. You already know Nigerian Jollof is better.
“Let me tell you. No matter how nice it tastes, I will still say it, Nigerian Jollof is better. Well, it’s actually nice, but Nigerian Jollof is better.
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BBNaija’s Lucy reacts after being accused of online begging (video)
• Rumours have made the rounds stating that all the gifts Lucy received from people were as a result of her begging for them.
• The Ex-Lockdown star stated that as long as she knows the God she serves, He will always provide for her and not through begging.
Big Brother Naija season 5 Lockdown reality television star and ex-housemate Lucy Edet Essien has taken out time to retort an accusation by people who claim she begs for gifts.
In a video the reality star posted via her Instagram story on Wednesday, January 20, she mentioned that a lot of people have been saying she begged for all the gifts she received since after BBNaija Lockdown show.
And this could be linked to a recent package the BBNaija star received from someone whom her colleague Kiddwaya gave her phone number. She has also received a cash from her female co-reality star Nengi who according to Lucy, gave her money totalling thousands of naira.
However, Lucy believes the secret to her gifts has been because she’s doing the right thing which is GIVING, hence, the bible verse, ‘give and you shall receive.’
The Cross Rivers State-native added that people should understand that whenever you know the God you serve, you don’t have to beg, because He will always provide for you.
“If you’re getting pissed that I’m getting gifts and all that, have you ever sat down to ask yourself ok, may be she’s actually doing something right, may be she’s actually giving to people.
“I don’t know how you should be expecting that I would come and announce, oh! I gave to this one, I gave to that. Not all of us have that mindset.
“God said that what you’re doing, your left hand must not know. If you give with the right, your left hand should not know. That’s how you get your own reward.
“I don’t see why I have to come and explain to anybody or people telling me, oh! me I’m going around begging.
“All I just have to say is that if you know the God you serve, basically, you don’t have to beg, God would always provide.”
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Opinion: “The Shippers Need To Rest” – Laycon Stylishly Shades Erica Fans in a recent freeystyle rap (Details)
The drama after big brother naija lockdown house seems not want to end soon, as exhousemates keep shading one another in any slightly opportunity given to them on social media.
This time, Laycon has stylishly shades Erica through his Jimmyjump off at Jimmyjat studio. The bbnaija winner and musician said shippers should need to rest, that he got a lot to brag of, but he just decided to stay humble.
However, no one need to tell before you know that he was referring to Erica fans and Erica, because Erica fans are always found of shipping Erica with Kidwaya and Laycon.
Recalled that Erica once said that Laycon doesn’t worth her and she also said that, she don’t want people to google her name and see Laycon with her name. That is why the young musician said that, he got a lot to brag about but he is humble.
In Laycon bars through Jymmyjat jumpoff, he said;
“So the shippers need to rest
There is a lot to brag about but I stay humble
Just let the music speak
And also let the number speak
Am not even at the top but they wanna cry
They keep saying my music won’t pop because of the show
Remember, the Music made me go into the show
I went on the show
Caught cruise on the show
Made money on the show
Made money off the show
Since I won the show
Let’s end the fucking show!”
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Bbnaija stars, Ozo and Nengi are 2 people that fans want together, right from the days of the Big Brother Naija show, fans always wanted them to date.
Yesterday a video was released online, and it has sparked reactions from the fans of Ozo and Nengi already.
The video showed the moment Ozo gave Nengi a peck on her cheeks, and also hugged her, while she blushed.
This made their fans really happy about it, as it seems like Nengi an Ozo would be in a new show soon.
“There are some guys who can never cheat on their girlfriend, me and 6 others”- Prince says
Big brother naija reality star, Prince Nelson Enwerem, says he is very faithful to his girlfriend.
The reality TV star shared a post by a twitter influencer, telling his followers that there are some men in this world that can never cheat on their girlfriends, unfortunately its only him and six others.
The influencer wrote:
“I know some people will not believe this but there are some guys in this world who can never cheat on their girlfriends”
He retweeted the post with a caption:
Prince Nelson Enwerem is yet to publicly reveal his girlfriend, however, himself and colleague, Dorathy Bachor are very close.
“See how you use a 3month old car” Fans react as Dorathy shares picture of the state of her car. (Details)
Bbnaija star, Dorathy took to her social media page to share a Short clip of the state of her Benz Car which attracted whole lots of reactions from fans on social media.
Dorathy was given the Benz car by her fans on the 4th of November. So the car is just 2 month old and some weeks.
Seeing the state of the car it shows everything some fans were saying some weeks back is true.
Some fans that reacted to this are of the opinion how can somebody use car like this within that short period of time.
Is not everyone that deserves expensive gifts- A fan wrote
Another set of fans that reacted to this are of the opinion she is so careless and also not using the car well or that the car is not good truly.